The most comfortable place, by far, was this last. It was the least tidy (even the home I haven’t mentioned, a construction site, was more prepped for guests) but the energy of it was the most wholesome and welcoming. I asked our hostess about how to harmonize three families under one roof:
“If the dirty dishes in the sink bother you, then do them. If doing them is going to make you resent that you are doing them, then don’t do them. That’s the rule of this house: don’t do anything you are going to resent.”
So I found that people "go green" as a status symbol, as a statement of principles, and finally as a way to practise gracious living, using less to do more, and creating community along the way. I especially resonate with this last one. I believe that as we recommit our energies to connecting to the people around us, we'll find we need less "stuff" to make us feel better. We'll discover we don't have to overcompensate for our isolation with super-sized everything. We'll learn how to live within our resource budget.
I don’t resent doing dishes. I know where I’d love to get invited to dinner.